Each day is a challenge for us as a family. Parents can't agree and sometimes a child doesn't get what she wants. (We have one very young boy who usually gets what he wants).
But doesn't that sound like anyone's home?
It does.
Living with a husband who has Aspergers isn't always a simple thing. Sometimes I don't say things exactly or clearly enough. Sometimes I misunderstand what he's saying. A lot of times our parenting style is different and a bit confusing to myself.
What is challenging for our family is a piece of cake for yours. Communication has always been an issue for us. However, we have learned that despite miscommunication it is always best to move forward with the best plan.
For example, today I made a mistake. I told husband that we needed to get groceries. I thought I had explained that we needed a big grocery trip. He didn't hear me. So midway through our trip I got the, "Are we done yet" question. Of course, we weren't even close and that was a problem. I compromised. I sped through and left a few items so we could get home.
My life is about compromise. I go through my marriage compromising and sometimes completely giving up my wants. But that's not so usual is it?
For parents out there who wonder if your asperger child will ever have a spouse or children. I am here to tell you that they can. It has never been easy for me. It's something I struggle through almost daily, but I haven't regretted the lives I've created and loved.
My life is full. The different perspective that my husband is able to bring to this family has been lifesaving. The times his aspergers is helpful make up for the times it's debilitating.
My hope in writing my thoughts is that others can understand that they can lead a normal and happy life. It takes patience and practice, but mostly, it takes a lot of love. My husband is my hero. He lifts me up when I'm down and helps me feel like a fabulous queen. I hope that other's who have aspergers can find the happiness that we have found together.
